"Talk" Therapy: Are Words Enough?
By: Suzanne LaCombe Ed.D., R. Psych.,
"Therapy isn't always about talking, it's about getting what you need."
Psychologist, Dr. Carole Gaato
“Being self-analytical isn’t helping.”
Knowing why we do what we do and being in full awareness of what we do isn't enough. In fact, even knowing the tools to use, may not be enough.
That's because the nervous system has an agenda for healing. And when you work with it, change emerges from within. Anxiety and fears fall away in a natural progression.
"I'm feeling worse with psychoanalysis."
When clients start to feel better, it's natural for feelings of grief and sadness to come up as they feel the contrast of how they were before and how they are today. As well, we know that coming out of the numbing feelings of depression, the inevitable anxiety might be quite uncomfortable.
Nonetheless, when is getting worse a bad sign? How do you know when it's too much, when the treatment is the wrong kind?
"My therapist never says anything."
A therapist who says very little is doing so to avoid interferring in the client's process. By keeping the interaction to a minimum, it tends to more quickly arouse the feelings in the client. This makes more material available for the client to work with.
However, is it necessary? Can we get to a healing place in a different, less uncomfortable way?
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were do i begin healing from the reality of an abandonment and how it affects everything
want to work on fear and anxiety that partner wont hurt me, shes the best partner ive known so patient i want to change were to begin i know that its my issue from being born into alcoholism and parent abondoning me was a reality i later was adopted into disfunction help.
I found therapy, in the end and after nearly 2 years, just too too much to bear. I lived feeling over activated, or yes….zoning out and trying to escape my mind and thoughts by detaching which I do, going to “a faraway place” both during sessions and whenever I started getting more anxious than I already was. Even at home. I didn’t want to leave therapy. I think therapy is the right way to solve problems, but I felt if I didn’t leave I would explode! Or implode. Or freeze up completely. Or just break. Now I feel shattered and lost and all the positive thoughts I was making myself have having left therapy seem scattered. Perhaps that kind of therapy was the wrong kind for me. I think it was psychodynamic and I found my therapist very precise, no bend, very strict. There and again maybe it was just me feeling that way because of transference (mother). I don’t know but I do know that very sadly I simply had to stop. I found just talking, and lack of talk from my therapist, unbearable.
I have found your website helps tremendously and I spend many hours exploring it. And especially now.
Thank you
Sky
What an accidental find! This talk by Julie Joseph I mean. It is lovely to have it underlining that which you have been talking about in The Brain Coaching Program Suzanne. I am really excited to have found it!
Sky
Hi Sky, oops I guess we forgot to take that out. I’m glad you found it though. Julie has some awesome tapes that would really go well with the BCP group. Maybe I can get her to come to one of the Teleseminars. That’d be cool.
Here’s some more samples if you hadn’t already found these before.
http://www.myshrink.com/relaxation-mp3.php
Shrinklady
Thanks Suzanne for the other samples. Great listening to them and I hadn’t found them yet. (And I know what I’d love for Christmas when my daughter asks, which she always does bless her)!!!!
Seems like it was my very lucky day to have found the Julie DiJoseph’s talk, (above) considering you’d forgotten to take it out. As I said “What a find”!
How wonderful if you could get her to guest on a future Teleseminar. Now there’s a thought, A treat too. Thanks again.
Sky